Five Ways to Repair a Broken Self Esteem

Hi! Well this is exciting! So after posting lots and lots of news stories, I thought I might post about some self help tips and tricks to really pick yourself up. Now is the time to really appreciate the new season, and I thought everyone would like a few tips to inject some “spring” in your step!

Losing your mojo:

Nearly everybody has experienced a Mojo Drop at some point in their life. This is a point where you lose your self-confidence and self-esteem. Your mojo is your self belief, your driving force and it powers everything you do. And everyone can lose their mojo in a flash, when you are least expecting it.

Now the surprising thing is that when you lose your mojo, you don’t think: “Today’s an off day,” or “Tomorrow’s a new day,” or “I’ve just lost my mojo, I’ll be fine tomorrow,” oh no. They can really hit rock bottom, feeling like a loser, that all their previous success was a lie and that all their skills and attributes that make them themselves, just don’t exist.

However, losing your mojo shouldn’t be mistaken for being chronically depressed. Depression is a much more serious matter, so some tips for being able to distiguish between these two are as follows:

1. You’ve lost the ability to experience joy, even when you’re doing what you most love(we docs call it anhedonia & it’s one of the most reliable symptoms of serious depression). If you can’t find pleasure in what used to reliably make your heart sing, chances are you’re depressed.
2. You feel depressed most of the day, nearly every day.
3. You’ve lost weight without dieting, or you’ve gained weight.
4. You can’t sleep, or you sleep all the time.
5. Others notice that you’re agitated or you’ve dramatically slowed down.
6. You’re fatigued nearly every day.
7. You experience feelings of worthlessness or guilt nearly every day.
8. You have trouble concentrating or you’re indecisive nearly every day.
9. You keep thinking about death, have recurring suicidal thoughts, or have a plan for suicide.

These are modified from the DSM IV criteria for Major Depression, and if you have 5 or more of these symptoms during the same 2 week period, chances are, you’re depressed. To meet criteria, you must experience either #1 or #2. And it’s key to make sure these symptoms impair your daily life, aren’t the result of some other illness or addiction, and aren’t short-term symptoms related to bereavement (which while similar to depression, has its own category in the DSM IV and usually gets better with time).

(Taken from Psychology Today)

However, losing your mojo can really slow you down. Also, trying to rationalise these feelings won’t help either, because, unfortunately, feelings have this wonderful way of defying any logical conclusion we may draw. During a mojo drop, you will feel tired, discouraged and self critical. When your mojo is completely gone though, you need to fuel up, revitalise your life, and you can only do that by taking it one day at a time.

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Also, cut yourself some slack. Seriously, if you don’t job hunt, or don’t revise for one hour, your life isn’t going to end! Remember, your fuel tank is your only source of power, so if these activities don’t sound like a worthwhile use of your time or don’t appeal to you, find the time to do something you really love.

  1. Get Outside. Take a walk, ride your bike, play football. Nature is a great influence when you are feeling down or critical of yourself. In nature, we remember that the universe is not working against us, and that, contrary to popular opinion, it doesn’t revolve around us. Going outside, taking a breath of fresh air and feeling the sun on your face can help reinvent ourselves, and help us move from one stage to another in life.
  2.  Get physical. Do exercise, run, dance or play. Whatever you want to do that involves getting moving can help energise and refresh yourself and help you feel the fun in life again. It can also remind that you are alive and that you can change your situation!
  3. Get creative. There is no limit to creativity. So if you can’t draw to save your life, it is fine. If painting is not your thing, no worries. Listening to music, cooking something new, writing a song, telling a story, building something out of Lego, these are all ways of making our creativity flow, and engaging our brains in a totally different way. You can also recall your own amazing experiences and stories from your own life, like your memoirs or your diary. You ever laughed until you can’t breathe? Worth remembering what made you do that. Reinvent yourself through your creativity and it can help to find a new perspective on your problems. Try it!
  4. Get together with supportive people. Working environment can be cut-throat at times with everybody is watching their own back. So it can be energising to get together with old friends and family to remind you of light and happy you can feel. These are people you can hang out with and talk about your problems with!
  5. Talk back to your critical voice. If that voice in your head is telling you that you are worthless and rubbish, ignore it, because it is wrong. You have worth and value and nobody, especially not your doubts, should get you down. So tell that to your voice. Speak aloud, or silently, but let your insecurities know that you are going to come back fighting. Remind yourself of how amazing you are, and keep picking yourself up.

So here it is! Five ways to really bring yourself back raring to go. Remember these aren;t rules set in stone; these can be adapted and changed to whatever suits you, as long as it can remind you that you are amazing, and you are incredible. Good Luck!

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2 thoughts on “Five Ways to Repair a Broken Self Esteem

  1. These are some really helpful tips! I’ve found that when I don’t manage my sleep properly (making myself go to bed around the same time each night and wake up around the same time each day), my mood suffers. I’m jealous of people who can more easily go with the flow, but my mind and body both appreciate routine. Anyways, this is a great article! I’m looking forward to future posts.

    – Faith

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  2. Awesome! I’m glad that you enjoy this post. Remember that self love is really important, and that the light is always at the end of the tunnel. Stay Positive! 🙂


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